Download this NLP Hot Tips Newsletter Here in PDF Format
Did someone you know send you this and you want to subscribe? Go ahead . . . It's FREE!!
|3. TRUE - Pam Castillo|
|4. WHERE CAN I FIND WHAT ELSE IS HAPPENING?|
|5. SO, WHAT'S COMING UP?|
John La Valle
So, go check it out!
John La Valle
©2020 La Valle®
by James M. Seetoo
Every year were confronted by the prospect of the dreaded New Years Resolution. And were told that now is the time to make all the changes that will make our lives better in the New Year.
And yet, were always changing so what is it about a new year that makes a change at this time more powerful and in fact, is it? Well, lets look at things more closely. If making changes at New Years is the best time to make a resolution to change, how is it that so many resolutions are made over and over again every year and still not fulfilled?
Every year at the annual resolution fest we find ourselves and possibly our friends saying This year will be different whats going on here? Why didnt you make a change last year?
The answer is you have made a change. Youve made many changes. Youve just been making these changes to stay where you are. Those of you who ride motorcycles and bicycles know that in order to remain stable, you have to keep moving and in order to stay stuck where you are you also have to keep changing. Youre just changing or rather, adjusting to maintain your position.
This is a powerful mechanism that youve developed over time. Youve been practicing it so long youve developed unconscious competence. The question becomes, is it the appropriate strategy to get you what you want?
The answer goes back to understanding what you really want, not what you dont want. I see this over and over in my clients: I dont want and so its vital that you push your clients and possibly yourself if youre working on yourself with answering What do you actually want. Now, some people are a bit resistant to stating what they want because theyre conditioned to not ask for things and so avoid disappointment but realistically, theyre just perpetuating their disappointment.
Its important for you to relentlessly push your clients to state what they want in positives. Over and over again, when I ask what a person wants, I get a list of what that person doesnt want and have to say, OK, so what do you want?
Youll find that just bringing people back to the Well Formed Outcomes and using the Meta Model prior to going into any techniques that a great deal of your work will have already been done by directionalizing your clients thoughts and getting that person moving in the right direction. Once you have movement, then you can point them in the right direction and utilize the existing mechanism theyve built over the years.
Thinking on Purpose is an indispensable guide to anyone
who wants to make changes in their life. Most people dont really
think. They remember.
Available at Amazon, Apple, Kobo, B&N on March 1st 2019. Available in your local book stores today
Dr. Richard Bandler, Owen Fitzpatrick and Dr. Glenda Bradstock
I answered the phone that morning as usual; "Clarity Institute, this is Pam." The high pitched female voice on the other end rushed through her formalities with lightening speed and garbled articulation "this is Asfansiasishisahheia Berhansiaisibdkditai (It could have been Anita Bertan or about a thousand other possibilities. I could not understand her). Exasperated and breathy she continued at the same fast pace; "I got your name from Richard Bandler's website, I'm an NLP trainer and yeah, so can you tell me, what is the most powerful NLP tool to use?"
Silence reigned as my eyes darted from left to right back and forth once or twice, my head tilted to the side as I wondered if I heard correctly - or - had I slipped into some alternate reality. You know, that place where time and space seem to separate and nothing and everything exist simultaneously confusing.
And then with the caller's same lightening speed,
I quipped back with one word. "Yes."
Her voice now had a slower pace, a deeper tone, a skipping, hesitating articulation and just as I planned, I calibrated a confusion as she spoke next: "Uh- wha, what do you mean?"
And that's when the call turned from comical to critical. I asked her what was important to her about knowing *the most powerful NLP tool* . She told me it was "Because I have a client coming here in less than an hour and I want to use THE most powerful tool of NLP to get the change."
Let's be clear. NLP has never been about the tools. I've heard Richard [Bandler] say many times, It's not about the tools. Yes, the tools and techniques of NLP are powerful, everyone of them is richly powerful. What makes them powerful, is the ability to connect. To connect to the unconscious process that is happening inside someone else's neurology. To connect at such rapid speeds that you can be a step ahead of someone else's thinking and your own thinking so that you can make the decision while having extrasensory timing, a timing that others have not yet discovered. That is where one knows how and where to go next in making the desired changes. That's the edge a well trained and confident NLP'er has. That's the power of NLP. It's in the ability to connect to one's unconscious mind and that of another's to understand the neurology of what's taking place to create and reveal which NLP tool to use and knowing why. This happens so fast that it feels as natural as it does to say your own name. It happens organically, and without planning. It happens with talent, with experience and with a solid foundation of NLP. And it happens from having that "Go First" experience of consistently walking the walk and talking the talk of using NLP - every day in every way, to become the best you you can be long before you start a training career.
There is something metaphysically beautiful about watching a well trained and confident NLP'er with a solid foundation of skills -skills that have been installed. NOT taught like school, but someone who actually learned NLP by experiencing NLP with the NLP learning process as Dr. Richard Bandler developed. It's experiential and in my opinion, does not come from books or home study programs. When you really learn something it becomes part of every fiber of your being and it's ageless, timeless and generative.
The call referenced here is an actual call I got this month. I get these types and similar phone calls throughout the year. Year after year. I occasionally get students that enroll in my courses who are REtraining because their foundation is academic and not kinesthetic and they can not DO NLP. Now whether it's true or not, there is something of a magical energy a lot of people sense with respect to the creative genius and co-founder of NLP, Richard Bandler. I think there's no coincidence that so many of these "help my NLP" calls start with "I got your name from The Society of NLP-Richard Bandler".
NLP takes practice and the more you use it the better you get. It's not about learning a bunch of things about NLP to teach the bones to others, it's not about the jargon, the tools or the techniques. It's about the ability to DO NLP and consistently get the results that makes the difference with confidence and competence.
©2020 Pam Castillo
Over many decades of the continuing development of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, we have collected hours upon hours of content featuring Dr. Richard Bandler and John La Valle, documenting the evolution of the technology through audio and video. Up until now, this content has been sold on NLP Store only in cassette tape, VHS, CD, and DVD formats made available all around the world. While these have been the only formats to receive the content officially, we believe that there is a better method to make some of the most important NLP-related content available to everyone on a platform that can adapt with the times without concerns about mediums becoming obsolete.
This is why we have launched NLP ETERNAL, a 24/7 streaming service that aims to make NLP Stores content available to everyone on a subscription basis available at
For the latest books published digitally by authors Dr. Richard Bandler, John La Valle, and more please visit the experiential publisher New Thinking Publications at